26.1.11

Off your instant messengers while you are busy or away....

There was an old friend of mine for 20 years who suddenly pissed off  when I cannot chat or chat for long with him during office hours. I was surprise with his reaction and thought maybe he wanted to tell me something that might be disturbing him. Family or work problems perhaps? Well, he's all alone in KL while his wife and kids are in Melaka. I guess it could be boredom.All along, he tried to msn me or message me on facebook during office hours and most of the time I was busy while my network has blocked facebook chatting.


Well, I don't think it's my fault of my long friend's frustration but this taught me something. When you are busy, off your msn or disable chat in facebook or just logout from both. This is especially so when you are on those mobile chat applications where you may not 'heard' when someone message you. I still  remember yesterday I am receiving messages from a friend on my phone even though I set my MSN to 'busy' while walking.

On the other hand, some folks have to be 'educated' that not everyone may respond to their IM and do not get offended if there are no responses.  Sometimes it could be due to network problems, messaging blocked by the service provider(like those in companies), the recipient is 'physically' away but forgot to change the status or just busy with other thing while forgot to change their IM status to away or busy.


Have a good mid-week and enjoy the days leading up to CNY!

13 comments:

  1. Hi Chris, I do not have handphones nor do I like chat on phones, or skype or whatever.
    I hardly get phone calls, maybe twice a month.
    Friends inviting for coffee.

    I prefer emails....as I can take my time read or reply.
    I agree with you such calls or whatever can be a problem.
    I guess technology is the cause.
    You stay easy, have a nice day.
    Lee.

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  2. :( u know since having my iPhone I have this 'problem'. My YM is always ONLINE though I'm no longer 'online'. I always forget to log out from iPhone YM hence my friends will buzz buzz without reply.. n i know that pisses them off :(

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  3. dats y i appeared offline when am at work most of the time since i have no time to reply them.

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  4. Hmm, I do the same thing as you said.. When I'm not available to chat, I'll just logoff right away..

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  5. My handphone is on all the time but in church, I would switch it to silent mode...or at work. In case of emergencies...and especially when my daughter is overseas, not at home.

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  6. Uncle Lee - I like your unhurried way of life. And, it's always better to meet a person 'physically' than cyber.
    Have a good week!

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  7. Merryn - exactly. SO, from now onwards, I will go offline if Im unable to respond.

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  8. Caroline- yeah, well done. People are people....they always assume things especially when you didn't respond back to them.

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  9. Hayley - I should have do it long ago. However, I guess a lot of folks still doing that... but then, a lot of folks also don't take IM seriously.

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  10. suituapui - that's great respect for the church or the place u r visiting.

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  11. ya..go offline when not onlining :)

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  12. hi chris, i'm quite surprised to hear that your friend reacted that way..aftr all it's office hours and one should be able to understand. most of the time when we dont get response from someone, we will assumed that he'sjust caught of with something ..well you dont really need to give much explanation which i dont think it's your problem at all, it's alrite chris, your friend will understand later..

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  13. lena - haha...i think something troubling him la. it's ok... he's fine now. Chat with him few days ago. And, I didn't really blamed myself for it , as I mentioned, not my fault. haha... Have a good weekend!

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