30.9.10

Angels

I find that sometimes angels don't have to be appeared with a winged, pure, fair and holy look as seen in books or movies. In fact, I realize angels are everywhere! I do have encounters with angels before and I believe you too!

On certain occasions during work, I got reminders or alerts from my boss or colleagues about something related to my projects and the reminders always came at a right time! It prevented something to go awry with my work. I also realize sometimes certain thing discussed or actions just taken as suggested by someone which can be out of the blue, provides the answer to me later in a meeting. Once my user, who heard some news, came to prepare me for it and I have a ready answer for it when needed later. And, best of all, I remember 7 years ago, I was down with a gastric flu and because of the vomiting and diarhoea, my body lacks fluid and the whole body began to cramp! At the right time, my ex-room-mate returned back and called the ambulance! These happened at the right time!


I guess being good, kind and helpful and goes to the great length to provide assistance to others will make us an 'angel' to others! And, these goodness are taught by the Lord God, thus, by obeying His Words, we are actually performing his duty! Thus, though we do not have wings or magical powers, the sword of kindness and the shield of compassion create temporary angels in us.A simple reminder which doesn't take much efforts may go all the way to prevent some disasters for our co-worker, friends, relatives and etc. A small donation can make a big difference. A simple gesture of kindness makes someone's day or saved a life!

Have a blissful, peaceful and relaxing weekend! :)

26.9.10

My Church's cell group

Here's a pix taken with my cell group members. The group is not big, around 10 persons to the max but not all turns up for the weekly meeting and I'm one of those who was not a regular. I usually went monthly since the meeting place is too far away for me in terms of working place or my home in Singapore. Well, the church is in JB but since all of us worked in Singapore, the group was formed in 2008 to cater to folks who stayed and worked in Singapore.

Ever since I joined a cell group, I find that it helps me to grow in my Bible knowledge, though it's slow and gradual for me, and that could be because I didn't attend regularly. Another good thing about cell group is, you can discuss your problems with your group and they will help you to pray about it or even help you out with your problem, if it's within their means.

When I first attended my church, I was a lone ranger where I don't even know anyone there. And  that goes on for almost a year till I found this cell group and started to get to know folks there. Thus, it's also a good platform to socialise with your fellow Christian brothers and sisters.

23.9.10

Blogging is therapeutic

Contrary to some other folks who said that blogging is a waste of time (unless you are promoting your business), show off your life to the world, nothing better to do and etc, I beg to differ. In fact, blogging is therapeutic and healing. This is especially so if you are bogged down by some issues or feel down or thought something can be done better, you pen (or type) down your thoughts and suddenly, you feel better. Solutions might flow in to you too. You actually express yourself and once you did that, you felt better. It's like telling others your problems or how you felt about something which can be improve and so on.


I especially enjoyed blogging nowadays and especially about life's skills which makes me (or maybe, you) felt better. I used to blog about food and since I have exhausted all the makan places, I decided to switch to something that can help me to feel peaceful and blissful.


Blogging is also a social platform. If you are into certain skills like photography, IT, cooking and etc, you may like to share it with others and in turn, others will share with you. And, you guys might be good friends too since there's a common interest! It's about sharing and learning together and it's fun!

Another thing I like about blogging is I get to see other places from somebody's blog. There's one blog in my blogroll which is about images of Ipoh, which updates me on the happenings back home. And, some traveler's blog certainly taught me the attractions in other places. Of course, not forgetting makan blogs, which finds good food for us. Well, and book reviews too!


Blogging is therapeutic....it makes you feel good, heals, relaxing and keep your worries away :)

22.9.10

Happy Mooncake Festival

It's the mooncake festival again and I would like to wish all of you a beautiful and blissful night with your loved ones and enjoy the peacefulness and silence of the night under the bright round moon.Have a great time bonding with your loved ones and kids while strolling on the street or nearby your home with the beautiful lanterns. Enjoy your mooncakes in different flavours and varieties, as well as other delicacies.

When I was a kid, this was one occasion I always look forward to especially the lanterns and candles. On the actual night, I will light up lots and lots of candles with my brothers or neighbours at the balcony, either in my home or my aunt's place (where a teenage reanaclaire will be watching...LOL) till the entire area lits up beautifully! As for the lanterns, I love the red polystyrene aeroplane shape which is quite large and usually I folded it back after the festival for the next one, but each time I did that, the lantern will break and usually I get a new one on the next festival.  I also remembers my bros loved to use tins instead of lanterns where they lighted up one or two candles inside, besides tying a string onto it to carry it, like a big torch! It sounds cool to them. :)  Well, not forgetting the 'buffalo shape' like delicacies which only on sale during the mid-autumn festival or commonly known to us as 'the 15th day of the eight lunar month'.


I will be on long leave from Thursday onwards till next Tuesday and will be back home in JB to bring my kids out to carry their lanterns around tomorrow night. Again, wishing all of you a peaceful and blissful night on the mooncake festival and stay well! :)

20.9.10

Weekend updates (17 Sept-19 Sept)

I watched all three Resident Evil franchise over the weekend, where I got it on Friday night. I was tempted to watch the prequels to the currently showing fourth installment of the series since most of my colleagues checked out the latest movie. Well, I caught up with the story by watching all three DVDs at one go, where the first movie started in 2002 and the third in 2007.



Accompanied my wife to check out some clothes for this coming weekend's wedding dinner in KL,  at a boutique last Saturday. Well, we seldom went to a boutique to check out the clothes but since she was unable to get some suitable ones at the malls, we decided to check out the boutiques. The clothes are slightly more costly than those sold at a mall but I guess it's worthwhile cos she managed to find something she likes. And, I enjoyed checking out the gorgeous salesgirls while relaxing at the sofa. :)


Make my kids happy when I returned back on last Friday night where I got each one of them a toy. Like to see their spontaneous happy and exciting look which radiate all over their faces and gestures.


Had a great time in church this Sunday morning, after been MIA for a month plus. I felt good after attending service and I think I better attend regularly. Took a group photo with my cell group too.
JB Wesley Methodist Church

Other than that, it's surfing and blogging at home, had good food and shop around. Have a great week , folks!

19.9.10

Soothsayings

It can be fascinating and interesting reading into 'real' supernatural tales or doomsday predictions like 2012 and etc. With the advent of Internet, all these tales can be easily google and loads of sites and articles about the subject are at your fingertips.While it was fun,  it can also be obsessive once you got interested in it and you may ended up probing the subject till you start worrying about it.

2012 the movie - I like this work of fiction btw.

Back in 2003, one of my ex-colleagues kept on talking about some Planet X crashing into Earth which will takes place in 2003 and that fella did lots of research into it, even at the expense of office hours. He told us countless stories about these stuffs till another colleague of mine can't stand him and move away. I too, instead of the fascinating tale initially during coffee time, tried to shy away from these topics. And, as we all know, it didn't happen. There were too, soothsayers about the year 2K millennium and not forgetting the years when famous comets pass by Earth, stating that these celestial wonders will crash onto Earth.




I feel that let's not waste time (and money)  studying into all these stuffs as it will not help us with our peace of mind. Just 'can't be bother' with it and moved on with the more important stuffs in our lives.

Acts 16:16 - Once when we were going to the place of prayer, we were met by a slave girl who had a spirit by which she predicted the future. She earned a great deal of money for her owners by fortune-telling.

14.9.10

Comfort Zone

Sometimes I felt that everyday is the same, week in, week out. We worked during the weekdays and do whatever we want during the weekends, and the cycle continues the next week. We rejoiced on a friday evening but felt the blues on a sunday evening, especially that we didn't spend the weekend 'well'. It seems we are stuck in this cycle till we faced another chapter of our life - retirement.


Well, I was wondering that is it my life getting too routine where I do the same thing over and over again week-in, week-out and should search for something new ? Or is it this is a case of not being content with what I have and I want something more? Thus, these blues prompted me to search the Net for some Biblical verses on contentment.However, after strolling some verses from a website, this one makes me feel better :


II Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 


My own intepretation to my concerns are, go all out and do what you wanted so that you will feel alive. Face your fears and move on, else I will forever remains in my comfort zone. Yes, I find that I'm very much in my comfort zone and in turn, it created all these feelings of boredom and etc. So, next, maybe I thought I work out my wish list and see how it goes.

Do you agreed sometimes the doldrums in life are caused by your comfort zone? And, do you always feel great and 'alive' after you completed something stressful, like giving a talk or completed a massive sales? Guess obstacles are not a bad thing afterall..... and there's always something good in something bad.

12.9.10

Kukup day trip

I had a pleasant trip over the first day of Hari Raya where we went to nearby Pontian and Kukup for a day trip. It's really been awhile since I last went there and it's really great to drive back there again! I especially love the quiet journey with not many cars on the road and the drizzles also helps to cool the weather down.

We first reached Pontian for lunch and check out a newly opened Nyonya restaurant. We ordered four dishes, sambal petai, lady's fingers &brinjal, fried chicken in mayonaise and asam fish, and two desserts which costs around RM46, quite reasonable. Check out the food here and click on it to enlarge.

 It's another 30 minutes drive from Pontian (if you are driving slow like me) before we reached Kukup. Well, Kukup is a fishing village but has become a great attraction all along especially for Singaporeans and JB folks!  Mostly the tourists likes to experience the kind of life staying in an actual fisherman house, above the sea. And, the food there is superb where for RM50 per head which includes accomodation and meals, you can enjoyed a variety of fresh seafood there and mostly buffet style!



It's quite nice to walk around the neighborhood and checking out the stuffs that they sold along the way, though I don't quite like the fishy smell. It was real crowded over the weekend where the school holidays and Hari Raya clashed and the crowd lits up the atmosphere over there. Some family pixs taken as below.

Though I have been there a few times years ago, I never really went near to the houses by the sea. However, I did that this time round and had a refreshing time viewing the sea, the fishermen's boats, birds and the kelongs.
It's been a great day trip, and it took me around an hour to reach JB from Kukup. It's very refreshing indeed to get away from the city and work!

Have a great weekend folks!

6.9.10

Psychosocial Development

I was chatting with my doc-friend last saturday and he pointed me to read this article on Psychosocial development by the late Psychologist, Erik Erikson. It was an interesting insight into human's phychosocial development and I believe most of you could have read this before, especially those who worked with children. If someone who didn't do too well at some stages in life could affect his psychological well-being. Happy reading and the below article is taken from About.Com (Psychology)

Erik Erikson

 Psychosocial Stage 1 - Trust vs. Mistrust

  • The first stage of Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development occurs between birth and one year of age and is the most fundamental stage in life.
  • Because an infant is utterly dependent, the development of trust is based on the dependability and quality of the child’s caregivers.
  • If a child successfully develops trust, he or she will feel safe and secure in the world. Caregivers who are inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or rejecting contribute to feelings of mistrust in the children they care for. Failure to develop trust will result in fear and a belief that the world is inconsistent and unpredictable.

Psychosocial Stage 2 - Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt

  • The second stage of Erikson's theory of psychosocial development takes place during early childhood and is focused on children developing a greater sense of personal control.
  • Like Freud, Erikson believed that toilet training was a vital part of this process. However, Erikson's reasoning was quite different then that of Freud's. Erikson believe that learning to control one’s body functions leads to a feeling of control and a sense of independence.
  • Other important events include gaining more control over food choices, toy preferences, and clothing selection.
  • Children who successfully complete this stage feel secure and confident, while those who do not are left with a sense of inadequacy and self-doubt.

 Psychosocial Stage 3 - Initiative vs. Guilt

  • During the preschool years, children begin to assert their power and control over the world through directing play and other social interaction.
  • Children who are successful at this stage feel capable and able to lead others. Those who fail to acquire these skills are left with a sense of guilt, self-doubt and lack of initiative.3

Psychosocial Stage 4 - Industry vs. Inferiority

  • This stage covers the early school years from approximately age 5 to 11.
  • Through social interactions, children begin to develop a sense of pride in their accomplishments and abilities.
  • Children who are encouraged and commended by parents and teachers develop a feeling of competence and belief in their skills. Those who receive little or no encouragement from parents, teachers, or peers will doubt their ability to be successful.

Psychosocial Stage 5 - Identity vs. Confusion

  • During adolescence, children are exploring their independence and developing a sense of self.
  • Those who receive proper encouragement and reinforcement through personal exploration will emerge from this stage with a strong sense of self and a feeling of independence and control. Those who remain unsure of their beliefs and desires will insecure and confused about themselves and the future.

Psychosocial Stage 6 - Intimacy vs. Isolation

  • This stage covers the period of early adulthood when people are exploring personal relationships.
  • Erikson believed it was vital that people develop close, committed relationships with other people. Those who are successful at this step will develop relationships that are committed and secure.
  • Remember that each step builds on skills learned in previous steps. Erikson believed that a strong sense of personal identity was important to developing intimate relationships. Studies have demonstrated that those with a poor sense of self tend to have less committed relationships and are more likely to suffer emotional isolation, loneliness, and depression.

Psychosocial Stage 7 - Generativity vs. Stagnation

  • During adulthood, we continue to build our lives, focusing on our career and family.
  • Those who are successful during this phase will feel that they are contributing to the world by being active in their home and community. Those who fail to attain this skill will feel unproductive and uninvolved in the world.

Psychosocial Stage 8 - Integrity vs. Despair

  • This phase occurs during old age and is focused on reflecting back on life.
  • Those who are unsuccessful during this phase will feel that their life has been wasted and will experience many regrets. The individual will be left with feelings of bitterness and despair.
  • Those who feel proud of their accomplishments will feel a sense of integrity. Successfully completing this phase means looking back with few regrets and a general feeling of satisfaction. These individuals will attain wisdom, even when confronting death.

This article may sounds heavy but I guess it's great and fun to understand more about us and see what's went wrong throughout our lifetime. Have a great week!

4.9.10

HiDef Radio

Woah..I finally found myself a great app on my iPhone! This is not a paid post and I thought I like to share this little application with my fellow bloggers who has an iPhone. There are so many radio stations on this application which spanned across different genres like 60s,70s,80s, Jazz, New Age, Easy listening and etc, while each genre features lots of radio stations. Of course, there are many such apps in iTunes but I think this is a good one! Do a search and look for 'HiDef' Radio in your AppStore, and it's free.

I love listening to the 80s music and after scrolling around and trying out several channels, I fell in love with US's 181 FM- Awesome 80's. There's a continuous supply of great 80s music all the time and most of the numbers are big hits and high definition. You can access the radio online here too but nothing beats tuning it on the iPhone while going to work every morning. It's so convenient and with a massive data plan which seems looks like unlimited usage, it's like almost listening to local stations.


man......the 80s music is awesome and is playing on a radio far far away in my iPhone now...

2.9.10

And I turned 40 today!

OK, this is it...I turned 40 today!! I was joking with my colleagues just now that I thought I was old when I turned 30 a decade ago and with a 'sekelip mata', I reach the big 4! OK, that's how time flies....hahaha...
hell yeah, im a 1970s baby!


Didn't really celebrate my birthday today as it's in the middle of the week and it's troublesome to take a day off and travel back to JB just for today, so, it's work as usual. I'll probably shared my birthday celebrations with my kid, who turns five on the 8 Sept. during this weekend.  I woke up peacefully and had a pampering breakfast at Starbucks. :) It was a good sunny morning while travelling to work and I'm enjoying the well wishes from my friends in facebook via my iPhone. Well, one thing  in facebook , you can have loads of your friends spamming your wall with all the birthday wishes for 24 hours.
It's like celebrating a party in facebook!!


And, I got a real surprise when Cleffairy blogged about my birthday together with her other good 'mei mei' later of the day. I only found out about it via my blog when smallkucing mentioned it in my comments on my last posting. It was really a surprise and yet sweet to see someone blogging about you and wishing you! Thanks Cleffairy and not forgetting smallkucing and  ReanaClaire who commented and wishes me.

Well, it was a peaceful  and a typical working day for me while I end the day with some hard games of badminton in a sauna environment (the weather was real hot today!) and now, my legs are aching! A sign of 40? hmmm.... I don't care but I will keep on going!! I believe there's lot of stuffs for us to achieve in life and we will get even wiser as we aged, agree? Let's keep going....age is just a matter of mind!

Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day. —2 Corinthians 4:16